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Psychological experiences clearly show that the art of
listening that can have therapeutic effects always comes
with visual contact. Findings also show that visual contact
is an important requirement of creating security and
paying attention to others. When in verbal
communications, listening is accompanied by visual eye
contact, participants in the communication will have
mutual respect and attention from each other and this will
increase their empathy and mutual understanding.
Thus listening without eye contact will lose its essential
value and is demoted to hearing as a biological function of
human beings. These two factors cannot be easily
separated from each other. On the same basis, families
that have eye contact while carefully listening to each
other, will create better and stronger emotional bonds.
Empathy is an emotional, cognitive process wherein one
person becomes aware of another’s emotions, feelings and
cognition. Some argue that empathy is a shared feeling of
emotion in two people. Karl Rodgers defines empathy as the
ability of a person to accompany another in his feelings so
that the feelings of that person is shared between the two.
When, as a result of conversation, and with due regard
to factors contributing to listening and empathy, an
emotional bond is formed, a mutual effect is created in the
family, enhancing the environment toward more
interaction and more family solidarity, and this cycle
moves toward evolution and betterment unless there is
distortion in the process of transformation and evolution.
As a direct result of interaction environment, fusion of
attitudes and exchange of ideas will happen between the
members of the family.